yemen, 4hb 3

pagi2 dh bangun... lapa.
siang jap g dah nk btolak ke k.l~ huhu, ahad flight,, nk update pon tak tau dh nk tulis ape, skrg ni dh jarang sgt bukak fb n ntenet, dan jgak sbb bband takde..... T_T kat yaman pon tak tau la ade mase ke tak nk bukak, hmm.... ape2 pon harap sume bjalan lancar, pjalanan pegi n blaja n balik n slamat smuanya

gambar2

umah mak

dah nk dekat 2minggu, duk umah mak n bapak, (mertua) rasa cm btuah sgt sbb dpt mak bapak spoting giler, bes, tak rase mcm duk umah asing, sah2 laa aku ni tak reti wat keje, seb bek la takde kne wat pape sgt, bsoh2 pinggan skit2...tu je la, baju suami yg basoh, makan kdg kt kedai, mak terer masak, blaja wat roti jala... nti nk blaja mcm2 lagi, bapak pon terer masak , (katering la kate kan, mmg sedap !) pstu tgok bapak masak, bes giler, bapak suke bercerita, n suke bcakap, tp dlm setiap apa yg de ckp sumanya ada maksud n ade tujuan tsirat de nk tembak n salu tashkil org, ajak org pd allah. kuarga ni bukan kuarga yg kaya dgn harta, tp kaya dgn akhlak n sifat2 mahmudah, buat aku tak rasa asing langsung, rasa cm btuah , menantu yg misali, eh silap, bapak aku bapak misali, kali ptama aku nk basoh baju kt umah ni, ttbe je bju dh tbasohm bapak yg basohkan! malu giler.... T_T huhu. ya allah panjang kan jodoh kami.. dia salu tnye knp aku kawen gn dia, aku ckp aku tima die krn allah n sbb de ada agama. agama yg tpnting skali.... biar lah takde rantai emas ke atau gelang smpai siku, yg pnting kita bhgia dgn taat perintah allah, jga apa dia suka. n jadi org yg tak sensitif dgn dunia...  aku suka bapak aku, 'besepah tu satu seni' hoho, baju2 byk gile nk kne lipat, tp dh lipat takde tmpt nk letak, jadi gantung je tak ya lipat, nk melipat tu pon amek masa yg mana byk lagi bnde leh wat dr lipat bbakol2 baju. huhu. mcm2 laaa lagi yg bes kat umah ni, rase nk duk cni tak nk balik umah je,.

Touching story... (MARRIED GUY SPEAKING)

When I
got home that night... my wife
was serving dinner, I held her
hand and said, I’ ve got
something to tell you. She sat
down and ate quietly. Again I
observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to
open my mouth. But I had to let
her know what I was thinking. I
want a divorce. I raised the topic
calmly. She didn’t seem to be
annoyed by my words, instead
she asked me softly, why? I
avoided her question. This made
her angry. She threw away the
chopsticks and shouted at me,
you are not a man! That night, we
didn’t talk to each other. She was
weeping. I knew she wanted to
find out what had happened to
our marriage. But I could hardly
give her a satisfactory answer;
she had lost my heart to Jane. I
didn’t love her anymore. I just
pitied her! With a deep sense of
guilt, I drafted a divorce
agreement which stated that she
could own our house, our car,
and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it
into pieces. The woman who had
spent ten years of her life with me
had become a stranger. I felt sorry
for her wasted time, resources
and energy but I could not take
back what I had said for I loved
Jane so dearly. Finally she cried
loudly in front of me, which was
what I had expected to see. To me
her cry was actually a kind of
release. The idea of divorce which
had obsessed me for several
weeks seemed to be firmer and
clearer now. The next day, I came
back home very late and found
her writing something at the
table. I didn’t have supper but
went straight to sleep and fell
asleep very fast because I was
tired after an eventful day with
Jane. When I woke up, she was
still there at the table writing. I
just did not care so I turned over
and was asleep again. In the
morning she presented her
divorce conditions: she didn’t
want anything from me, but
needed a month’s notice before
the divorce. She requested that in
that one month we both struggle
to live as normal a life as possible.
Her reasons were simple: our son
had his exams in a month’s time
and she didn’t want to disrupt
him with our broken
marriage.This was agreeable to
me. But she had something more,
she asked me to recall how I had
carried her into out bridal room
on our wedding day. She
requested that every day for the
month’s duration I carry her out
of our bedroom to the front door
ever morning. I thought she was
going crazy. Just to make our last
days together bearable I accepted
her odd request. I told Jane about
my wife’s divorce conditions. . She
laughed loudly and thought it was
absurd. No matter what tricks she
applies, she has to face the
divorce, she said scornfully. My
wife and I hadn’t had any body
contact since my divorce intention
was explicitly expressed. So when
I carried her out on the first day,
we both appeared clumsy. Our
son clapped behind us, daddy is
holding mommy in his arms. His
words brought me a sense of
pain. From the bedroom to the
sitting room, then to the door, I
walked over ten meters with her
in my arms. She closed her eyes
and said softly; don’t tell our son
about the divorce. I nodded,
feeling somewhat upset. I put her
down outside the door. She went
to wait for the bus to work. I
drove alone to the office. On the
second day, both of us acted
much more easily. She leaned on
my chest. I could smell the
fragrance of her blouse. I realized
that I hadn’t looked at this
woman carefully for a long time. I
realized she was not young any
more. There were fine wrinkles
on her face, her hair was graying!
Our marriage had taken its toll on
her. For a minute I wondered
what I had done to her. On the
fourth day, when I lifted her up, I
felt a sense of intimacy returning.
This was the woman who had
given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I
realized that our sense of intimacy
was growing again. I didn’t tell
Jane about this. It became easier
to carry her as the month slipped
by. Perhaps the everyday workout
made me stronger. She was
choosing what to wear one
morning. She tried on quite a few
dresses but could not find a
suitable one. Then she sighed, all
my dresses have grown bigger. i
suddenly realized that she had
grown so thin, that was the
reason why I could carry her
more easily. Suddenly it hit me…
she had buried so much pain and
bitterness in her heart.
Subconscio usly I reached out and
touched her head. Our son came
in at the moment and said, Dad, it’
s time to carry mom out. To him,
seeing his father carrying his
mother out had become an
essential part of his life. My wife
gestured to our son to come
closer and hugged him tightly. I
turned my face away because I
was afraid I might change my
mind at this last minute. I then
held her in my arms, walking from
the bedroom, through the sitting
room, to the hallway. Her hand
surrounded my neck softly and
naturally. I held her body tightly; it
was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made
me sad. On the last day, when I
held her in my arms I could hardly
move a step. Our son had gone to
school. I held her tightly and said,
I hadn’t noticed that our life
lacked intimacy. I drove to office….
jumped out of the car swiftly
without locking the door. I was
afraid any delay would make me
change my mind…I walked
upstairs. Jane opened the door
and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do
not want the divotrce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and
then touched my forehead. Do
you have afever? She said. I
moved her hand off my head.
Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce.
My marriage life was boring
probably because she and I didn’t
value the details of our lives, not
because we didn’t love each other
anymore. Now I realize that since
I carried her into my home on our
wedding day I am supposed to
hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake
up. She gave me a loud slap and
then slammed the door and burst
into tears. I walked downstairs
and drove away. At the floral shop
on the way, I ordered a bouquet
of flowers for my wife. The
salesgirl asked me what to write
on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll
carry you out every morning until
death do us apart. That evening I
arrived home, flowers in my
hands, a smile on my face, I ran
up stairs, only to find my wife in
the bed -dead. My wife had been
fighting CANCER for months and I
was too busy with Jane to even
notice. She knew that she would
die soon and she wanted to save
me from whatever negative
reaction it would have on our son,
in case we pushed through with
the divorce. —At least, in the eyes
of our son—-I’m a loving
husband…. THE SMALL DETAILS OF
YOUR LIVES ARE WHAT REALLY
MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP. "IT'S
NOT" the Mansion or House, the
Car, Property, the Money in the
bank. These create an
environment conducive for
happiness but cannot give
happiness in themselves. So find
time to be your spouse’s friend
and do those little things for each
other that build intimacy. Do have
a real happy marriage! If you
don’t share this, nothing will
happen to you. If you do, you just
might save a marriage. Most of
life’s failures are people who did
not realize how close they were to
success when they gave up... YOU
DONT REALIZE WHAT YOU HAVE
UNTIL ITS GONE!!

Happiest Couple In The World.

There was a young couple who led a very happy life together.The only thing that they worried about was, whether theirhappiness would last forever or would they too would haveto face problems.

One day, they heard that a wise old man had come to town;he could solve all kinds of problems and guide people. So thecouple decided to visit the wise old man and tell him theirsource of worry.


The wise old man told them; "Travel around the world and seeka man and a woman who are perfectly happy as a couple. Whenyou find such a couple, ask them for a piece of cloth from theman's shirt, then keep that piece of cloth with you, and youalways remain happy."

The young couple began their journey, to find the happiest couplein their world. In one place they heard that the governor and hiswife were the happiest people, so they went to their palace andasked them, "Are you the happiest couple?"

The governor and his wife replied, "Yes, we are happy in every wayexcept for one thing; we do not have any children."



Well that didn't make the governor and his wife the happiest couple.So they continued their journey. They arrived in one city where theyhad heard that the happiest couple lived. They went to their house
and asked them, "Are you the happiest couple?"

The couple replied, "Yes, we are really happy in every way except thatwe have too many children which make our life a bit uncomfortable."No, this couple did not sound to be the happiest. And, so they continuedtheir journey. They visited many countries, cities, towns and villagesasking the same question but they did not find what they were looking for.One Day the young couple came across a shepherd in the desert.



The shepherd was grazing his sheep when his wife and child came along.The shepherd greeted his wife and gently patted the child she was carrying.She laid the mat and started to eat contentedly. The young couple came to
them and asked them, "Are you the happiest couple?"

The shepherd and his wife replied, "Nobody is unhappier than the king."The young couple immediately realized that they were the happiest coupleand asked them for a piece of the shepherd's shirt, so that their happiness
too would last throughout.

The shepherd said, "If I give you a piece of cloth from my shirt then I willbe left without any clothes since I own just one shirt."


The young couple at once understood that it is very difficult to findperfect happiness anywhere in the world. The couple decided to returnto their own country. They went to the wise old man and related all that
had taken place. They also complained that his guidance was difficultto abide by.

The wise old man laughed and said, "Was your journey useless or did youlearn something from it?"

The young man replied, "Yes, after this trip I have learnt that in this world,nobody is perfectly happy, only that person is happy who does everything with out expectinganythingin return."


"And whosever follows god's guidance, on themshall be no fear nor shall they grieve".

The wife said, "I have learnt that in order to be happy it is importantto remember two things; first, all human beings should be thankful andcontented with whatever they have."

"And our Lord declared publicly: if you are grateful,
I will add more favors unto you".

"And secondly, for ultimate happiness one must always practice patience."

"Seek help through patient perseverance and prayers".

After that, young couple thanked the wise old man for his guidanceand returned home. The wise man prayed for them and said, "Indeedthe sign of happiness is in their heart and they have good manners andif the lifetime is spent in pleasure of ere would be no differences
in the existence of mankind."

"Whosoever follows god's guidance, will not loose
his way nor fall into misery. But whosoever turns away from his message,verily for him is a miserable life".

Characteristics of a Pious Wife.

A pious woman’s priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman’s qualities.
Examples: A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]

An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked “Who are the best of women?” He replied, “The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes.”

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

Reflect on:
If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: “Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]

If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]
Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].
A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]

The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

55 ADVISE

1 Short separation (days) will strengthen the marriage but long separation can weaken the relationship.

• As they say ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder.'



2 Understand each others fitrah (The fitrah is the natural disposition of a person e.g. Allah has created man and women with certain qualities that are innate in them).

• The hadith of Muhammad (saw) states that “Every person is born on a state of fitrah, it is their parents that change them to a Jew, Christian or Fire worshipper.” Both the husband and wife must realise not to challenge each others fitrah but can account each other by their fitrah.

• Hadith: Prophet Muhammad (saw) said to his daughter Fatima; ‘O Fatima , Allah has made Ali on a certain fitrah that you should know about.”



3 Try and solve disputes on the same day.

• Hadith: Prophet Muhammad (saw) said ; “Don't let disputes stay until the next day but solve it the same day.”

• Shaytan is always there to cause fitna for people especially between the husband and wife so its important not to let disputes last longer than a day otherwise small issues will seem very big.



4 Don't speak about your past!

• Islam forbids speaking about your jahilliyah (days of before practising Islam).



5 Stay away from idealism and live your lives naturally.

• Hadith: A couple came to Prophet (saw) and said ‘we make mistakes' and He (saw) said ‘you are not perfect'.

• Always evaluate the problem and don't pretend or expect miracles.



6 Convey your love and warm feelings to each other.

• Hadith: “You must express yourself to your partners”

• The wife of Muhammad (saw) said: “The Prophet (saw) never let a day pass without showing his affection.”



7 Fight against your own problems and don't share anger with your partner.



8 Do not be critical of each other.

• Hadith: Prophet (saw) said “Do not be critical”. All type of criticism is forbidden in Islam.

• Islam allows certain type of lying in order to maintain a good relationship e.g. complementing on the wife's cooking even if it doesn't taste nice!



9 When disputing with your partner don't expand the argument by adding all other previous disputes.

• Hadith: Prophet (saw) said “Dare any of you who sleeps with his wife in the night and then critises her in the morning.”



10 Never doubt your partner,

• Doubting each other can lead to the destruction of the marriage



11 Trust your partner and show you have full confidence in them.



12 Pick a suitable partner for yourself but also make sure that you are also compatible for your partner.

• Hadith: A man came to the Prophet Muhammad (saw) after seeing a woman for the purpose of marriage and said ‘She is of good Deen but her father refuses' He (saw) replied ‘did you look to yourself?' (This man never went for jihad or was see among the men of Medina ). The man replied ‘Ya Rasuallah, verily you have spoken the truth”.



13 The main pillar to maintain good relationship between the husband and wife is purity hence cleanliness of body and house etc is important.

• Once a woman complained to the Prophet (saw) about her husband's bad odour.

• Hadith: The Messenger Muhammed (saw) said “None of you who believe in Allah, spits and covers it.”



14 You need to sacrifice to maintain relationship.

• Hadith : The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Sacrifice is the best gift between the husband and wife.”



15 ADVISE FROM A SAHABIYAT TO HER DAUGHTER;

• “Care about your husband like you care about yourself and love for your partner what you love for yourself.”

• The Messenger Muhammad (saw) will never eat before his wives as mentioned in a hadith “ The best amongst you is the one who raises the food and feeds his wife.”



16 Give your partner gifts.

• Exchanging gifts will cause more inclinations towards each other and strengthen the relationship.



17 Don't be selfish!

• Give and take, don't always take.



18 Don't accuse your partner for problems e.g. by saying ‘You did it' or ‘it's your fault.'



19 Live for the day and don't worry about tomorrow.

• Allah knows whether or not you are going to wake up in the morning!



20 Always remember that marriage is a divine bond, so think twice before doing something on the impulse which you will regret later.

• Hadtih: The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Three things that are serious; marriage, divorce and freeing the slave.”



21 Although love is an essential part of marriage, do not take it for granted and abuse each other thinking that your partner will always love you regardless of ill treatment.



22 Be an example to your partner and let your actions tell and convey your personality.

• Hadith: Muhammad (saw) said; “To change your partner the way you wish, be the model for them.”

• Hadith: “Pray Qiyaam with your wife.”

• Hadith: Once Fatima (ra) the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) asked ‘How can I be closer to Ali (ra)?' He (saw) replied ‘Pray Qiyaam ul-Layl with him and whenever he wakes up, wake up with him.'



23 Do not let parents, relatives or neighbours interfere with your marriage.

• Try to reconcile between yourselves as much as you can and if that's not possible than allow a trustworthy Muslim to arbitrate.



24 Don't rush into correcting differences which you perceive in your partner. There are some matters that can only be changed with time.



25 The couple must both accept the consequences and responsibilities that marriage brings and be satisfied.



26 Do not embarrass or humiliate your partner especially in the presence of other people.



27 Participate in collective activities together.

• Co-operating with each other will bring a sense of family life e.g. Picnics, BBQ, dawah projects etc.

• The Prophet Muhammad used to do collective things with his wives.



28 Do not look down to your partner or ridicule their capability rather let your partner express themselves.

• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw); “The good husband is the one when the speaks he listens and when she complains he is concerned.”



29 The financial right (Naafaqah) of the wife is something serious and her husband must fulfil it.



30 Do not share your sadness and misery with your partner rather exchange jokes and laughter.



31 Do not allow your friends to interfere in your marriage.

• Aisha (ra) the wife of Muhammad (saw) once said to the women of the Ansar “Watch out! Do not give room for your friends to interfere in your own privacy.”

• Part of a man's fitrah is that he has the right of authority in the family as the head of the household and also that no one should know about his affairs.



32 Let your husband feel that you are content with him and that you are proud of him.

• Hadith : Muhammad (saw) “Do not compare your husband with another man and don not compare your wife with another woman.”



33 During times of disputes remember the goodness of your partner.

• Hadith: Muhammad (saw) said; “The good deed abolishes the bad deed”



34 Abu Bakr (ra) said: “In order to understand the character and goodness of your partner, and to fight defection, remember;

• What you like about your partner?

• What happy experience has passed you two?

• What things you did together?”

• Umar bin Khattab (ra) said: “The good man is the one who makes his partner like him and appreciate him.”



35 Be careful not to use abusive words during times of disputes.



36 Have celebrations with the family.

• The Prophet Muhammad used to encourage his daughter Fatima (ra) and Ali (ra) to celebrate with their children.



37 The intelligent wife is the one who asks her husband for things at the right time e.g. don't ask for a expensive dress if you know he can't afford it!



38 Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said ; “Three things that should not be used My dignity, My status, My pride.”



39 Do not abolish the presence of your partner. Always have consult your partner, even if it's for small issues like grocery shopping.



40 Do not run away from home!

• If you want to discipline the wife for doing something sinful then separate from the bed but don't leave home.

• Hadith: The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Don't run away from home”



41 Do not anger your husband by asking too many unnecessary questions and vice versa.



42 Do not desert the husband at home.

• Umar bin Khattab disciplined a woman for that and said to her; ‘Are you a woman or a man?'



43 Do not exchange roles!

• Allah (swt) has clearly defined the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife hence it is not proper for us to swap them. A woman must remember even if she is working, her husband, children and home would always come first.



44 Respect the In-laws.



45 Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said; “Honour your mother in-law and call her by the best names (according to the tradition).”



46 Don't let the neighbour interfere.

• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said; “Look after your neighbours and participate with them in happiness and sadness and always command them to obey Allah.”

• Disclosing family secrets is not participating in sadness!



47 Be careful not to have disputes frequently, it will jeopardise the relationship.

• Learn to sacrifice in issues of permissibility in order to maintain tranquillity.



48 Always establish quietness, calmness and tranquillity in the home.



49 Do not interfere with your partner when they are disciplining the children except in an emergency where your partner is violating the shari'ah.



50 Look after your children and maintain a high standard of upbringing e.g. clothing, feeding etc.



51 Listen to your husband and try not to forget to do things for which he has asked you to do.

• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said ; “Teach your wife the chapter of An-Nisa, Al-Maida, An-Nur (from the Qu'ran).”



52 Shari'ah must be the centre of your lives and obedience to your husband is one of the means to Jannah.



53 Remember that Allah will always test you and there will be times that you may have domestic problems but remember every problem doesn't mean the end!



54 Avoid arguing with each other especially in front of children.



55 The wife should not allow anyone to enter her home without the permission of her husband.

> Marriage - Fate/Taqdeer

Marriage is one of the things that Allaah has decreed. The person whom you will marry is known to Allaah: He knows who he is, when he was born, where and when he will die, how he will be towards you, and other details. All of that is known to Allaah and He has written it in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz (the Book of Decrees), and it will inevitably come to pass as Allaah has decreed.

If Allaah has decreed that you will marry one person, but you choose someone else, then no matter how long it takes, you will marry that person. But your marriage to someone else is also decreed, because there is nothing that is not decreed by Allaah. It may be decreed for a woman to marry So and so the son of So and so, and he comes to propose marriage but she refuses him, and marries someone else, then he (the second man) dies or divorces her, then she accepts the first one. All of that is decreed, and it is decreed for her to marry So and so the son of So and so after initially refusing him and after some experience or trials etc.

It may be decreed for a woman that a righteous man will propose marriage to her, but she will refuse him and he will never come back to her, and she will marry and live with someone else who is more or less righteous, according what Allaah has decreed.

Because man does not know what is decreed for him, what he must do is to adhere to sharee’ah and abide by its commands and prohibitions, and to seek the help of Allaah and pray to Him for guidance (istikhaarah) concerning all his affairs, whilst implementing the means, one of the most important of which is consulting sincere people who have relevant experience.

If a righteous man proposes marriage to a woman, she should pray to Allaah for guidance (istikhaarah) and agree to marry him. If things then go smoothly, this is an indication that what is good for her is to marry him.

In conclusion, man should study the sharee’ah of Allaah and follow the commands of Allaah even if he feels reluctant, and avoid what Allaah has forbidden even if he is attached to it. All goodness is to be found in obeying sharee’ah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Jihaad (holy fighting in Allaah’s Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know”

[al-Baqarah 2:216]

The Secret of Happiness!

A man and his fiance were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered.

"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.

We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.

Atheist vs Imam

Atheist: Can your Lord fit the entire universe into an egg without making the egg any bigger and the universe any smaller?

Imam Jafar As-Sadiq: I would like you to look at the sky, and at that bird in the sky, and at that tree, and at all those people who have gathered around us and now look at me.

Atheist: I see them all.

Imam Jafar As-Sadiq: If Allah can fit all of those things inside the tiny pupil of your eye, do you think that he cannot fit the universe into an egg?

'I understand you need television not a wife.'

A man visited Imam, because he wanted to marry, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The Imam said, 'your requirements, please?' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, nice talking. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The Imam listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television not a wife.





There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."


It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.


It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

• The woman has a greater intuitive awareness of how to develop a loving relationship. Because of her sensitivity, she is initially more considerate of his feelings and enthusiastic about developing a meaningful, multi-level relationship; that is, she knows how to build something more than a sexual marathon; she wants to be a lover, a best friend, a fan, a homemaker, and an appreciated partner.

• The man, on the other hand, does not generally have her instinctive awareness of what the relationship should be. He doesn’t know how to encourage and love his wife or treat her in a way that meets her deepest needs.

Since he doesn’t have an understanding of these vital areas through intuition, he must rely solely upon the knowledge and skills he has acquired prior to marriage. Unfortunately, our educational system does not require a training program for a husband-to-be. His only education may be the example he observed in his home. For many of us, that example might have been insufficient. Men enter marriage knowing everything about sex and very little about genuine love.

We are not saying men are more selfish than women. We are simply saying that at the outset of a marriage a man is not as equipped to express love or as desirous of nurturing marriage into a loving and lasting relationship as a woman is.

Now that you know WHY men and women cannot understand their respective differences without great effort, we hope you will have more hope, patience, and tolerance as you endeavor to strengthen and deepen your relationship with your wife [or husband].

‎10 Tips on How to Be a Successful Wife

1) Be grateful to your husband. Remind yourself that it’s a tough world out there and your husband works very hard to provide for you. So whatever you do, don’t compare him to other men, unless it is favorably. Let him know that you appreciate his efforts, not just through your words, but also your actions.

2) Be sensitive to his moods, feelings and needs. For example, don’t start complaining or burden him with problems as soon as he comes home; rather, welcome him and make him feel good to be home.

3) Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.

4) Make sure you serve him the foods he likes, remembering that variety is the spice of life. Try to eat together as this fosters companionship.

5) Dress up for your husband at home. Wear the colours and clothes that he likes to see you in and use make-up, perfume, jewelry - in short, whatever it takes to be attractive to him.
Do things together or at least allocate some time of the day to give him your undivided attention. Be sincere in appreciating him, show interest in his day, his activities, his thoughts and opinions. Give him advice and comfort him when needed.

6) Spend your husband’s money carefully and try to keep him informed of where his money is being spent. Remember not to spend large amounts of his money without his permission.
Show caring and concern for his relatives as this is a sure way of securing a place in his heart. Never object when he spends on them, as this is a source of abundance in provision and increase in life span.

7) Don’t fly into a rage when you have a difference of opinion or he criticizes you. Stay calm, control your tongue and don’t challenge your husband’s authority at that time. Use your wisdom, tactics and powers of persuasion later to try to explain your point of view.

8) Believe the best, not the worst about him. Be forgiving and accept apologies graciously rather than holding grudges and bringing up mistakes of the past.

9) Show respect for your husband by not divulging your private and confidential issues to others, or by complaining about him to people or discussing your marital problems with those who cannot help you.

10) Last, but not least, remember that your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not entail any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Allah’s Messenger Sal Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said:

“Any woman who dies and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.’’

(Ibn Majah and Tirmidhi)

sunnah

Life has really changed.
Gone are the days...
Where people used to say
......'Aww your face is so sweet and smooth'.

.Gone are the days
Where it took ages,
To shape my sideburns
And shave all the facial hair.

Gone are the days
Of beauty, charm and attraction
As the beard is now,
A symbol of terrorism and backwardness.

People see me now,
As something strange and weird.
My relatives often make fun of me,
By asking who broke your heart?

My distant friends ask me,
Did you join any terrorist camp?
My close friends at times make fun of me
'Hey man, blades are very cheap nowadays'

Women often ask me,
Why don't you shave that ugly beard
And be like a charming superstar?
You look boring!

I feel sorry for my sisters
As their minds are now totally corrupted
Inside the web of clean-shaved star icons,
As they're the new age 'trend setters'.

But very few know
That I follow a superstar.
His name is Mohummed,
The forgotten hero.

And I have no regrets
As he has taught me,
'This world is prison for a believer
And paradise for a non-believer.'

So wake up,
O muslim youth!Remember our heroes, The Prophets and the Sahabahs
Remember, this world is a testing place
And don't let your senses to deceive you.

So be proud to imitate,
The Prophetic style
For he has commanded us,
'Grow your beards and trim your moustaches'.

And he who loves his Sunnah,
Has indeed loved him.
And he who loves him,
Will be with him in Paradise!

( by a brother Muhammad Jalal Ahmad)

ajr

He prayed finished and walked over to his wife. He sat down with her and took her hands. He began to read something while he held her fingers. She asked, “what do you do?” He answered, “I finished my prayer and got ready to do Tasbih on your hands so we can share the AJR, and inshAllah we will be together in paradise too.”

♥....

ust nahu sorof

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KdOWsqVeCQ&feature=share

baru tjumpa ust abdullah punya syarah dlm kelas ni tak pasti bila..... ya allah trus tringat masa dulu 3 4thun blaja..mmg garang ust ni,tp sronok blaja dgn dia.. ni la mata plajaran asas n awal buat kitorang dulu msa awl2 masuk mad...blaja cm ne nk fhm bhse arab... ust ni buat kan suma org besemangat... pagi2 je tertunggu2 ust datang,denga tapak kaki ust je pon sume dah menbatu diam takde skit pon suara kua..... nme2 femes tym tu sah2 la nme aku skli tmasuk.....dah tu lau tesekat2 wat tasrif atau tgagap2 (tak siap keje la tu mknenye) lepas tu siap laa kosi angin,tu pon seb laa kdg tu kne rotan lagi huhu...  mnisnya waktu blaja dulu...bila salah ade yg tegur....bila silap ust stazah betulkan.... ^_^ rindu zaman blaja duluuu....... ust khalid lom jumpa lagi kat utube~ gn ust azeem, ust omar,. sume2 la lau ade dh aku masuk kan skali

mar'ah solehah-priceless gift

Husband - I feel happy.
Wife - why?
Husband - Because I’m lucky
Wife - why do you say so?
Husband - Because Allah loves me.
Wife - is it?
Husband - Yes that is why Allah has given me a priceless gift
Wife - Masha Allah! what is it?
Husband - That is you my wife !! that is you!! A righteous wife is the best gift that a man could have..

aku takot

ya allah....bila tgok dia...aku jadi takot...taktaw npa...btul2 takot...bukan main2.... T_T

smlm dh selesai urusan ikrar, pstu..mmg jmpe la die... tp tak watpe pon,takde ckp2 pon,jauh2 je... pstu pi umah de... borak2 gn mak die n gtaw je tak reti masak, seb bek mak de cam ok je... die dah gtaw awal2 kot.....

movies

Two teenagers asked their father if they could go to the theater to watch a movie that all their friends had seen he denied their request.

"Ah dad, why not?" they complained.


Dad replied: "Because every movie contains nudity and portrays immorality as being normal and acceptable behavior."

"But dad, those are just very small parts of the movie! That's what our friends who've seen it have told us. The movie is two hours long and those scenes are just a few minutes of the total film! It's based on a true story and good triumphs over evil, and there are other redeeming themes like courage and self-sacrifice. Even the movie review websites say that!"


"My answer is 'no,' and that is my final answer. You will not go and watch any film. End of discussion."

The two teenagers walked dejectedly into the family room and slumped down on the couch. As they sulked, they were surprised to hear the sounds of their father preparing something in the kitchen.


They soon recognized the wonderful aroma of brownies baking in the oven, and one of the teenagers said to the other, "Dad must be feeling guilty, and now he's going to try to make it up to us with some fresh brownies. Maybe we can soften him with lots of praise when he brings them out to us and persuade him to let us go to that movie after all."

The teens were not disappointed. Soon their father appeared with a plate of warm brownies, which he offered to his kids. They each took one.


Then their father said, "Before you eat, I want to tell you something: I love you both so much."

The teenagers smiled at each other with knowing glances. Dad was softening.


"That is why I've made these brownies with the very best ingredients. I've made them from scratch. Most of the ingredients are even organic; the best organic flour, the best free range eggs, the best organic sugar, premium vanilla and chocolate." The brownies looked mouth-watering, and the teens began to become a little impatient with their dad's long speech.

"But I want to be perfectly honest with you. There is one ingredient I added that is not usually found in brownies. I got that ingredient from our own back yard. But you needn't worry, because I only added the tiniest bit of that ingredient to your brownies. The amount of the portion is practically insignificant. So go ahead, take a bite and let me know what you think?


"Dad, would you mind telling us what that mystery ingredient is before we eat?"

"Why? The portion I added was so small, just a teaspoonful. You won't even taste it."


"Come on, dad; just tell us what that ingredient is?"

"Don't worry! It is organic, just like the other ingredients."


"Dad!"

"Well, OK, if you insist. That secret ingredient is organic ... dog poop."


Both teens instantly dropped their brownies back on the plate and began inspecting their fingers with horror.

"Dad! Why did you do that? You've tortured us by making us smell those brownies cooking for the last half hour, and now you tell us that you added dog poop! We can't eat these brownies!"


"Why not? The amount of dog poop is very small compared to the rest of the ingredients. It won't hurt you. It's been cooked right along with the other ingredients. You won't even taste it. It has the same consistency as the brownies. Go ahead and eat!"

"No, Dad ... Never!"


"And that is the same reason I won't allow you to go watch movies. You won't tolerate a little dog poop in your brownies, so why should you tolerate a little immorality in your movies?

We pray that Allah (swt) will not lead us unto temptation, so how can we in good conscience entertain ourselves with something that will imprint a sinful image in our minds that will lead us into temptation long after we first see it?"


Remember, we become de-sensitized a little bit at a time; it is the small and minimal sins that we forget the most.

Not to mention when we blindly update songs that contain word of shirk n kufr or indecency OR update movie clips or dialogues hence promoting them among our own Ummah is nothing but prmoting FAHISH....

cte cm ni ust saaalu ckp....'kmu nk ke klo ust bg susu kt kamu,tp ade ckitttt je air kncing dlm tu' mmg sume org pon taknak.. tp kdg2 org tak prasan,ataw ambik mudah dlm ssatu pkra tu....

rumah tangga

‎"Rumahtangga yang dibina atas dasar materialistik, seolah-olah ini meletakkan kebahagian kepada harta. Bila harta hilang, hilanglah bahagia.

Kita mahukan rumahtangga yang dibina atas dasar kasih sayang yang tulen. Walau tiada harta, suami isteri akan duduk bersama-sama sebagai tanda kasih. Susah bersama, senang bersama."

(Zaharuddin.net)(aiman azlan)

kawen lagi....

orang biasa yg blaja agama, kawen msti pki purdah, adat tu biasa mmg tak kan hilang, msti ada... takpe la at least jaga purdah dia...n ada jgk adat yg tak bcanggah gn agama. mcm takde bsanding n tak cmpo laki ppuan.. huu..t pk utk diri sndri, kuarga aku n dia mmg dua2 pon sama2 blaja, inshallah nk wat tbaik....

"She makes herself beautiful for him

She makes herself beautiful for her husband by means of make-up, clothing, etc., so that she will appear more beautiful and attractive, and thus make her husband happy. This was the practice of the righteous women of the salaf, who used to devote their time to worshipping Allah and reading Qur’aan. Foremost among them were ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) and others; they used to wear fine clothes and jeweler at home and when they were traveling, in order to make themselves look beautiful for their husbands.

Bakrah bint ‘Uqbah came to ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) and asked her about henna. ‘A’ishah said, “It comes from a good tree and pure water.” She asked her about removing body hair, and she said, “If you have a husband, and you could remove your eyes and replace them with something better, then do it.”

Let those careless women who neglect their appearance in front of their husbands listen to the advice of ‘A’ishah, and realize that their beauty should be primarily for their husbands, not for their friends and peers. Those women who are failing to make themselves beautiful for their husbands are sinners, because they are falling short in one of the greatest duties of marriage. Their negligence may be the cause of their husbands staying away from them and looking at other women.

The wife whose husband only ever sees her with unkempt hair, looking pale and wan and wearing shabby old clothes, is a foolish and disobedient wife. It will be of no help to her if she rushes to beautify herself only when receiving guests, or going to a women’s party, but remains looking shabby most of the time in front of her husband. I think that the Muslim woman who is truly guided by the teachings of Islam will be safe from such shortcomings, because she treats her husband properly, and a woman who treats her husband properly is most unlikely to fail in fulfilling her duty towards him.

It is one of the teachings of Islam that a woman should make herself look beautiful for her husband, so that her husband should only ever see of her that which he likes. So it is forbidden for a woman to dress in mourning for more than three days, except in the case of her husband’s death, when she is permitted to mourn for four months and ten days. We find proof of this in the hadeeth narrated by Al-Bukhaari from Zaynab the daughter of Umm Salamah, who said, “I came to Zaynab bint Jahsh, the wife of the Prophet (SAW) when her brother died. She called for perfume and applied it to herself, then said, “I am not wearing perfume because I need to, but because I heard the Messenger of Allah (SAW) say from the minbar:

“It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) and the Last Day to grieve for more than three days, except for her husband, (for whom she may grieve) four months and ten days.”

Qualities of a Good Muslim Wife

From the viewpoint of Islam, a good wife is considered to be the best thing in the world. This accords her a special position, and places responsibility on the husband to treat her according to this elevated position. The role of the wife in the marriage is extremely important, indeed it is the decisive factor.

Wives must do their best to keep their husbands pleased with them. The ideal wife combines in herself three merits; she pleases her husband when he sees her, by taking care to appear beautiful before him; she obeys him when he gives a command; she does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property.

To refuse to go with her husband when he calls her to bed is a grave mistake that a wife must avoid.

When a wife intends to fast voluntarily, she may do so only with her husband’s permission. If she does not receive his permission, then he has the right to make her break her fast when she is observing it. The reason for this is that he might wish to exercise his conjugal rights with her, which he cannot do if she is fasting with his permission.

It is a wife’s duty not to allow anyone, that her husband does not want, to enter the house without his permission. She may not give anything away of her husband’s property without his permission. She should avoid asking a husband for extra money, or for that which he does not possess and cannot provide, and she should show gratitude for whatever is given.

A good wife is one who is true to her husband’s word if he adjures her to do something. On a husband’s return home, a wife should receive him kindly and meet him with a good and beautiful appearance. She should try not to neglect her husband’s needs nor ignore his demands. The more a wife takes care of her husband, the more she will be loved. Most husbands consider their wives care of them as an expression of their love.

A wife should discuss family problems with her husband to alleviate any later problems or misunderstandings. It is for her to hold her husband’s close relatives in respect and treat them kindly, which is a mark of respect and honour for the husband.

Leaving the house frequently is a bad habit for a woman. She should also not leave the house if her husband objects to her doing so. She does not have the right to lend anything of her husband’s property against his wishes. However, she can lend from her own property.

If a husband’s friends enquire about him, a wife should answer them but without indulging in lengthy conversation. Too many arguments and disputes with a husband, heaping abuse on him, leads, in fact, to hatred and deterioration of the relationship. Taking care of the house and running the household are the wife’s responsibility.

If the husband gives his wife permission to go out to work, this should not be seen as a licence to equality. In fact, the issue of also producing income to the households is something which might later act as a dividing factor between husband and wife. If the wife works outside the house, her income is entirely hers to do with, as she pleases. Her husband has no right over it. If she prefers not to work, she must be satisfied with the level of comforts her husband can provide on his income and not pose unreasonable demands on him.

A wife may not give alms from her husband’s property without his permission. Speaking to or telling others about sexual matters between a husband and wife is a grave sin in Islam. This applies to both parties. She should not be afraid to express her love and affection for her husband. It will please him and bind him closer to the family; Moreover, if he does not find an attractive, loving woman at home, he may be driven for solace elsewhere, outside the home.

Leadership in the family is given to the husband. For the wife to demand complete and full equality with her husband will result in having two masters in the family and this does not exist in Islam. However, the husband should not behave in an autocratic manner and misuse his position. He should display love and affection and treat his wife as a partner in life. Marriage is a partnership of love, trust and mutual respect between two people. Its foundations are solidly established by Islam and exists as a sanctified castle, so to speak.

We have listed here the many and varied duties and acts of commission as well as omission by the wife. This does not imply that the husband has no reciprocal duties and obligations. On the contrary, his function within the marriage bond is equally important. However, one should bear in mind that marriage means understanding and behaving tenderly towards one’s partner. It is a partnership of give and take.

A Wife By getting married

 you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for some time she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.

The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says: "They are your garments and you are their garments." (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187). Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions of your own nature ..." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72)

Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

But Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

Remember that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She outran him but later after she had gained some weight, he outran her. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating. Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife"

Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home.

Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up, even by splashing cold water on his/her face.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said, "The best of you are those who are best to their wives"

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents." Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said, "I don't like yours either." Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings.

The best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years, extended to include all those she loved; this love of his continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying, "O Allah let it be Hala."
—

Love & Mercy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkh55ydEpgY&feature=share

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lFAXOP97DHE&feature=share

1. bg hadiah....
2. kne ade masa utk duk bsama n talk, isi masa utk ckp gn psangan
3. tgok dia dgn pndangan kasih syg (women to feel secured they have to be touch 30times a day, btul ke?? huhu, pape pon bgus la kalau dpt amal kan ! huhu...)
4. warm greetings...bg salam.. tnye kabar....
5. puji ! n jgn bnding2kan gn orglain,lg2 ppuan lain !.... btul la kot...sbb nye msti la kte nk tbaik d mata suami,ttbe de nk puji2 orglen pulak, ah...tak bes,. praise ur wive n NEVER compare her with somebody else or another sister.
6. tolong mnolong... ape tah pkataan ptama tu tak phm sgt lak, umm... cm suh tlg wat kje2 rumah la.. tlg skit2 pon takpe...penting kot...
7. kind words. pktaan yg baik tu sadaqah/sedekah. satu cabang dr sedekah n jgk ibadah....
8. spending time out together
9. peacefull gathering utk bncangkan ape2
10. seimbang dlm ape yg istri nk wat
11. tnjuk kan n bg phatian lagi2 tym istri tgh sakit, lau tak msti smp mati pon de akn igt ape yg kamu wat....
12. break the rutin (ape la cmpo melayu english,buruk btul tulisan...) dgn wat satu kelainan. suprise him/her !
13. pampared her/each other. say anything nice ! hunny/hunnyBEE or baby or whatever
14. don't hide ur feeling, being straight forward.. (salu diam je msti sbb ego kot?? tah la)
15. calling her/him with her/him most beautiful name
16. don't talk about ur problem at the time u are going to bed.
17. show thanks n ur support. man lam yasykurinnass lam yasykuriLLah..
18. minta maaf bila salah..
19. respect each other, marriage with no respect will not/shall not last forever.
20. ikot sunnah n cara nabi..mcmna nabi buat...mcmna sifat2 nabi...


khairul 'amaali ilallahi adwamuha wa in qall, amalan yg pling allah suka,ialah yg ckit,tp btrusan... aku harap dpt amalkan...n jgk smpaikan...inshallah
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9pzpPcGrPqM&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OdOjYOpssec&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0i3tLEJYx1c

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpz4FNIdEmQ&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePjxXSL1NZA&feature=related

baju kawen-beli kasut

baju kawen tak siap pon lagi, tp dlm proses jaet...inshallah siap lah... wane pink ! snanye takde plan pon, tp kawan ckp lawa pstu amek je la.... pastu abah cm tak suke sgt sbb nti nk kne jalan kat lau sume org tgok, mmg pon.... jadi baju tu pki dlm umah je, pompuan je tgok....huhu, bagus la boleh nk amek2 gmbar gn kawan2... tu pon lau ade rezki dpt datang sbb bg org sume kedah tu jauh gilaaaaaa..... T_T sabar je la...

baju tu wat jubah je.... tp mgkin cm gaun ckit sbb de kembang, cm jubah hitam aku gak cume lain kaler je... aku suka wat jubah,bia la boleh nk pki lg pas ni, sbb nye byk org kawen wat baju lawa giler tp pki skali je, membazer kot !!  pstu lagi satu baju... kaler coklat. tak rau dh nk amek warna ape sbb abah nk kaler yg gelap2, bia tak tlalu menyerlah sgt nti ade org laki tgok plak. bju tu pon wat jubah gak... cuma tambah batu2 ckit kat bhgian tgn, ok la tu pon boleh pki lagi lepas ni...kalau nk g jalan atau ziarah kuarge.. slama ni pki je hitam n merah, tu je yg ade... aku malas la nk pk lebeh2... huhu.. pstu td g kL tu, mmula nk beli kasut, ade bata seblah kFc tu, ade kasut tuu..lembuuuuttt giler, hushpuppies kot...mmg bes giler kasut tu....boleh lompat2 lari2 tanpa sakit kaki... tapi, harge de 200, amek kau! sah2 la abh tak beli... hoho. mmg gile btul,tp mmg sedap la sbb tapak de lembut.... pastu tgok bata yg lain2... pstu ade yg ok tp tapak lak cm kayu... adeh..ssh la.... last2 tak beli... kasut skg dh koyak siap tcabut2 pe sume. tp ok lagi leh pki, bia la... nti beli slipar je cm crocs tu, tp tu pon hari tu beli 16 pki tak smp setahun tapak dh haus, jalan2 pon cm nk tgolek je,...licin... tringin nk kasut yg boleh pki lama... dh size kaki aku pon sah2 la tak kn besa dh.... ttp jgk size 5 je dr thn lepas.....same la cm tinggi.....tp tggi mgkin dh tmbah setengah inci je kot~ huhu....

mgkin jgk sbb aku asek duk wat kek n roti wat kan berat aku dh naik.....senget.padahal dh la salu lapa n tak mkn, tah la... naik 3kg kot!! , mmg bes wat masak2 bnde cm tu sbb dah ade sukatan tetap... kalau masak lauk main agak2 aku tak pandai.... T_T kne tgok depan mata baru leh blaja masak... hari tu blaja wat nasik ayam pon tak ckup sedap lagi... dh pndai sangat ayam yg kne goreng pi bakar pulak,mnjaga kesehatan la sgt kan... sudahnye jd kureng sedap pulak... tp boleh la makan lg.... ideal 46... skg dh 53 kot! berat~ knapa ek nk kne risau??tah la aku pon tak tau.... ape2 pon aku tak de niat sgt nk kurus, sbb bila nk kurus je msti ttbe je ade mknan sedap2 byk2..kek la piza la ape2 lagi sume... jadi kne amalan mknn sehat je la.. pstu kne senaman...

hari tu pi tido umah abby bes giler kot dpt men beskal , walaupon mlm2.... tak kisah la.... cm nk terbang je bawak beskal tuu... pi mad jumpe kawan.. dh umah pon sederet je gn mad... senang la... pstu amek gmba... bes nye dpt duk gn kawan2.. mmg masa blaja la masa paling bes... tp tak ramai yg dpt mnfaatkan btul2... aku nk blaja lg psni harapan aku nk blaja sggh2 n kuatkan smgt...tabah kan hati... aku salu ckp je lbeh, sat g ko pi sana jauh2 nanges la sorang2!!

orang tabligh

Orang Tabligh,
Entah siapa la yg bagi nama,
Sedang kita semua adalah sama,
Umat Nabi s.a.w semuanya,
Kerja dakwah kan tanggungjawab bersama,
Nabi kita sudah tiada,
kalau kita tak buat, siapa pula,
Nak harap ustaz dan ulama'?
Yg kita ni, nak goyang kaki sahaja?

Orang Tabligh,
Lari!! Larii! Orang Tabligh datang,
Yg tadi ramai, sekelip mata je dah hilang,
Yg tadi segar bugar dah tidur terlentang,
Yg sakit kaki pun boleh terjun tingkap lari lintang pukang,
Huh! Betul la, nak ajak manusia pada Allah bukannya kerja senang.

Orang Tabligh,
Manusia biasa, ada hati,
Sedih bila diperli, sakit bila dimaki,
Bila tinggalkan rumah, rindukan famili,
Kalau nak ikutkan hati,
Memang nak duduk rumah, bergurau dengan bini,
Ajak anak main lari-lari,
Atau layan internet sampai pagi,
Tapi untuk kebahagiaan yg abadi,
Kena korban lagi dan lagi,
Hidup ni kan cuma sekali,
Kalau sekarang tak buat jyunbi (persiapan),
bila lagi?

Orang Tabligh,
Ajak keluar khuruj, bukannya tak pulang-pulang,
Yg baru dapat gaji pun kata tiada duit nak bayar hutang,
Yg tadi sihat pun tiba2 migrain pulak datang,
Yg menganggur pun buat2 sibuk bukan kepalang,
Hey, dakwah ni takat tulis dan cakap je memang la senang,
Cuba la buat, memang nak kena sabar, nak kena tenang,
Dah jadi lumrah kena ludah kat muka, pelempang dan sepak terajang,
Mengajak manusia kepada Allah bukan senang,

Orang Tabligh,
Ajak keluar 3 hari,
"I can't go....sorry!"
Yg dah kahwin tak nak berenggang dgn isteri,
Yg si isteri mati2 tak nak suami dia pergi,
Berderai2 air mata keluar mcm air pili,
"Kalau abg nak gi juga, hantar saya balik kampung esok pagi!!"
Hey, org laki mmg lemah bab air mata ni,
Si suami pun letak balik beg, tak jadik pergi,
Yg tadi josh (bersemangat) terus tak jadi pergi,
Jadi lemah seluruh sendi,
Kes2 macam ni mmg byk terjadi,
Boleh tengok dgn mata kepala sendiri,
Tapi kalau bab dunia (cth:kursus, naik pangkat),
"No prob hubby, anytime kami ready!"
Si isteri siap lambai pemergian suami dgn wajah berseri2,
Hey, of course la, nanti husband I dpt naik gaji,
Wife mana la yg tak happy,
Huh! Ini la realiti,
Bab dunia, tak payah diajak pun semua pakat2 reti,
Bab akhirat, masing2 buat tak kesah, tak ambil peduli,
Ya Allah selamatkan lah kami!

Orang Tabligh,
Rumah ke rumah,lorong ke lorong, hati ke hati, pintu ke pintu,
Jumpa semua orang tak pilih bulu,
Dari ustaz sampai la kutu,
Semua nak ditemu,
Nak diajak pada Allah Yang Satu.

Orang Tabligh,
Jalan bawak periuk belanga,
Dipandang orang takat sebelah mata,
Dituduh jahil,tinggal dunia, anak bini, perkara biasa,
Walaupun kekadang pedih juga telinga,
Terus teringat Nabi dulu2 pun kan selalu kena,
Dituduh dusta, dipanggil gila,
Itu Nabi, apatah lagi kita,
Yg banyak salah, yg banyak dosa,
Takpe2, Allah kan ada,
Yg Maha Mengetahui, yg mana intan, yg mana kaca.

Orang Tabligh,
terkadang buat gak silap, adat la manusia,
Mmg tengah nak belajar2 tiru sifat sahabat (r.anhum) yg dah terbukti berjaya, Terpancung, terlaser, sorry bukannya sengaja,
Nak dapat hikmah dalam berdakwah memang ambil masa,
Untuk itu, kena keluar lagi dan lagi la nampaknya.

Orang Tabligh,
Di mana-mana pun ada,
Di USA, Afrika, kat Israel pun ada,
Dari pencuci tandas, petani, peniaga, engineer, artis, doktor sampai la Raja,
Pelbagai adat, ragam dan keturunan dan bangsa yang berbeza,
Tapi boleh makan dalam dulang yg sama,
Bila keluar jemaah semua dilayan serupa,
Bila nak berpisah, isk2, keluar pulak air mata.

Orang Tabligh,
Usaha nak hidupkan sunnah2 Nabi,
Janggut, jubah, sugi, seluar atas buku lali,
Kalau nak diikutkan, mmg ada banyak lagi,
Kekadang tu kena juga perli,
"Kita sekarang kan zaman IT, zaman berteknologi,
"Tak main la sunnah2 ni!"
Jangan la macam tu bang, nak tak nak, kita kena juga mati,
Kang menyesal esok, siapa yg rugi?
Kan diri sendiri.

Orang tabligh,
Tidur di rumah Allah 3 hari,
Tertinggal sebutir nasi, siaplah untuk diadili,
Siap sedia untuk kena maki,
Kalau ada majlis kenduri-kendara orang tempatan,minyak, tulang, cawan bersepah tidak pula orang diperduli.

Orang Tabligh,
Malam2 menangis doa hidayat,
Fikir risau, camne nak selamatkan diri, keluarga dan umat,
Supaya di akhirat kelak semua selamat,
Orang sekarang ingat hidayat boleh senang2 dapat,
Dengan goyang kaki, tak perlu keringat,
Tak mahu pulak ziarah masyarakat,
Just busy buat ibadat,
Kalau camtu takde la kita ni "The Best Ummat".

Orang Tabligh,
"Apsal la ulama India yg jadi ikutan?"
Mmmm...kan Nabi dulu dah pesan,
Siapa saja yg bawak kebenaran,
Tak kisah la orang Arab ke bukan,
Semua kena bagi sokongan,
Yg Allah pandang bukan luaran,
Yg Allah pandang hanyalah Iman,
Bab mazhab jangan bimbang, masih sendiri punya pegangan,
So tak jadi masalah la kan?

Orang Tabligh,
Bukan nak tahta, harta, ataupun kuasa,
Atau nak berlagak macam dah ulama',
Tak jugak nak kafirkan sesiapa,
Atau sibuk2 pergi mintak derma,
Cuma nak amalkan agama yg sempurna,
Dengan korbankan diri, harta dan masa,
Nak selamatkan manusia kesemuanya,
Dari kekal di neraka atau dahi kene cop neraka,
Nak supaya Allah redha,
Masukkan kita dalam syurgaNya.

Orang Tabligh,
Ada di seluruh dunia,
naik kapal terbang pakai selipar jepun sahaja.
Ikhlas, tiada subsidi dan tiada ditaja,
Passport penuh cop pelbagai negara,
Kalau nak tau, ada yang kerja tukang kebun sahaja,
Nafkah batin macam mana?
Bende yg batin ni, kita x nampak, itulah agama.

Orang Tabligh,
Kenapa sibuk dakwah orang seluruh negeri?
keluarga, anak isteri belum betul lagi,
Nabi Nuh a.s, anak isteri tak nak ikut pergi,
kalau Nabi Nuh ikut teori tersebut, tak naik bahtera boleh jadi.
Abu Jahal bapa saudara Nabi Muhammad saw tak nak ikut cakap Nabi,
Kalau Nabi Muhammad s.a.w ikut teori macam tu, tak buat dakwahlah Nabi,
Tak sampailah Islam ke Malaysia ni.

bercinta lepas kawen

bercinta sebelom kawen memang tak menjamin ape2 pon....
dah banyak kawan2 yang aku tgok... ada yang dah 10 tahun bercinta pastu plak laki tu lambat2 tak tau la nak tunggu apa lagi, lepas tu pulak... last2, kawen dgn laki lain,
ada lagi sorang kawan rapat pon sama jugak, dah 2 tahun bercinta... tp denga kabar bakal kawen gn org lain jgk, alasan laki yg dcintai tu lambat g habis blaja  n ttbe ade plak org lain nk kawen gn dia...dlm msa yg sama mmg ppuannye nk sgt kawen. umm... mcm2 hal jgk...
kadang2 tgok org dr jauh je.. kadang2 terkena kat kawan2 sndri.... kcian pd yg d tgl kan, kngan2 mcm2.... mmg tak sng nk lupakan, tp kne la trima....hati kne bukak luas2..... aku dh kcian sgt2 dh kat kawan aku sorang tu, bila dh denga dr dua2 pihak, mmg dua2 sgt2 syg kan pasangan dia memasing, tp mgkin faktor kurang sabar.... senang cite mmg takde jodoh la allah dah tetapkan dr awal dia akn kawen gn orglain, tu je la.... tp laki tu ckp bukan de tak leh nk amek orglain,cuma dh syg sgt3 dh kat ppuan tu...gn kngn2 yg sgt la byk... jadi ssh utk nk lupakan....msti lau pi tmpt2 biasa pi,msti la akn tringat... apa2 pon aku harap laki tu ok je... aku tgok ppuan nye pulak dh mcm nk dpt lupakan laki tu....mcm tgh plan2 psl kawen bulan 8 ni, dua2 pon kawan aku.... dua2 pon ade cite tsendri... hmm

hari ni pulak g kL. tak tesangka pulak la kL tu dekat gilerr 10min je dh smp !! kalau pki tren mau 30min campo dgn peluh panas sempit mcm2 la lagi, mmg bebaloi2 pki kete je pi sana..... -_-' parking pon tade la ssh mana... rezki kitorang la kot dapat mudah jalan pon tak jem td... mmg 10min je dh smp !!

MARRIAGE is the rainbow

MARRIAGE is the rainbow between two hearts sharing seven colors:
feelings, love, sadness, happiness, truth, faith, secret and respect. :)
and working towards jannah

What is love?

Love is when Khadijah (R.A) spent her entire wealth on this Deen for the Man she loved... Love is when the Prophet (S.A.W) took the glass that Ayesha (R.A) drank from and put his lips on the exact place she put her's and then drank... Love is when the Prophet (S.A.W) had a race with Ayesha (R.A) and joked with her when she lost...Love is when Zainab (R.A) would sacrifice her most prized possession, her everything for her Husband...Real Love is not based on romance, candle light dinners and walks along the beach rather it is based On respect, compromise, care and trust

maluu......

ttbe dapat call, ttbe dpt cal, no yg kua - no umah DIE- pstu tgok2 mak2 sedara die nk ckp gn aku.. mmg segan gile.. ckp gn acu n mak ndak.. mcm mesra pulak walaupon tak pnah jumpa lagi... segan gile allah je tau.... acu ckp 'wahh duk tgok kat fb masak mcm2 sedap2, ni nti balik cni nk suh masak la boleh....' siap ckp nti nk pelekoh aku masak sedap2.... ya allah,aku dh la tak reti masak kot !! huhuu....ya allah lindungilah aku dr kne masak bnde yg aku tak reti.....aku mmg tgh blaja2 lg...bnde asas pon aku tak reti masak lg ni....

haisy, laki takde pulak kne masak !

persediaan kawen

"Most couples spend more time planning their wedding than they do planning their marriage. But the wedding lasts only a day." (Sheikh Yasir Qadhi)

 ni yg aku pk kan.... jadi aku tak de nk risau sgt pasal adat yg byk,atau pon nk wat mcm kawen princess ke ape ke... 

apa2 pon,masyarakat boleh brubah,kita boleh ubah persepsi org dgn apa yg dh dtentukan allah.. inshallah lama2 nt tak de lagi konflik antara prinsip agama n budaya masyarakat. sbb adat tu akan brubah2...dan yg tak kan berubah tu iah hukum allah..

 cth mcm apa yg wajib ,harus,sunat,adat. yg wajib tu akad nikah n mahar wajib dr pihak lelaki.. walimah tu sunat, dan yg lain2 dh mmg sedia tau adat,. 

byk amalan dlm budaya kdg tak ikot syariat, yg wajib dpandang remeh, yg harus mcm wajib pulak, yg haram d aggap penting, n yg sunat dlupakan pulak. jadi tugas sapa nk ubah suma tu...kite la kan. walaupon ssh pada mulanya, tp kalau bukan aku yg mulakan sapa pulak nk stat dulu...

MANUSIA BUKAN HANYA MEMBINA RUMAH (HOUSE) TP SEBUAH KEDIAMAN (HOME) , YANG DIDALAMNYA PERLU DI ISI DENGAN KASIH SAYANG, KEMESRAAN DAN KECINTAAN.

lg skali aku suuuka sgt kata2 ni.

"Most couples spend more time planning their wedding than they do planning their marriage. But the wedding lasts only a day." (Sheikh Yasir Qadhi)

knapa marah sbb hak tak terlaksana

knapa laki tak suka ppuan yg membebel....lbh tepat, ISTERI yg mbebel2.... sedangkan dia mnusia biase je... mnusia yg luar biase yg bila dleteri istri pon biasa2 je... cth Hadrat Umar r.a, waktu istri membebel, dia diam...dan igt sgl sedekah istri die.
sedekah?miskin ke dia? maksud sedekah tu... melahirkan anak,bersih kan umah kemas umah, masak sediakan makanan jaga anak2 n rumahtangga, tu suma dkira sedekah istri...yg mana suma tu satu limpahan kebaikan. maka,sedikit leteran tu dah dkira kecik... jadi MARAH blh dredakan bila kita igt kebaikan dia,sebaliknya kita boleh nyalakan kemarahan kita dgn igtkan kebesaran kita, marah tu biasa lah,tp yg luar biasa  tu marah yg tak reda2, marah yg dtg dr rasa takbur...takbur pulak dtg dr tak rasa kebesaran allah,.....
macamna nak rasa kebesaran allah?? caranya dgn rasa dulu kekerdilan dri sendri !

knapa ppuan mbebel?sbb suami tak bhgia mnerimanya.....

cth lagi, kita salu tgok mak kita mbebel2,sedang dia adalah insan yg pling byk bkorban n mdidik kita.. dan istri pulak adalah ibu kpd anak2 ,yg mana bkorban jugak....utk anak2nya. jadi adakah kita marah atas leteran ibu kita?? tergamakkah nk marah ibu kita sdgkan pngorbanannya tlalu byk?? jadi cm tu lah jg spatutnya dtunjukkan pd ibu ank2 tu (istri la)...

yg mberi sedekah kne lupakan, yg dberi sedekah pulak kne igt pemberian yg dtrimanya...

Berusahalah merasa bahagia dgn mbuat kbaikan tnpa dilihat oleh orglain. sbb dia yg sibuk wat baik takkan sempat nk pk kan kjahatan org lain.

memberi bukan untuk menerima....kalau tidak nnt kebaikan tu takkan berterusan la sbb dia tak dpt balik balasan yg dia harapkan... jd jgn bimbang jika tak dhargai,tapi bimbanglah jika dri btul2 tak beharga.

kita perlu hargai dri sndri baru la org lain akn hargai kita, org laki sgb pmimpin,jadi takde istilah queen control..Queen control berlaku sbb suami gagal jadi pmimpin,yg mana dia msti lah kawal dri dia dulu spy dpt kawal istri dia....n utk kawal tu perlu ada ilmu n mengamalkannya..